The Cycle Of Denial

The Cycle Of Denial

The Cycle Of Denial One of the hardest things for somebody to do is actually to ask for help, to realize that they need help, and that happens when somebody decides they want to go to rehab because life has become too painful for them and they want to do something to change the way they’re living their life. Honesty is something that you find difficult when you’re in active addiction. You develop strategies which will justify and rationalize what you’re doing, you start being dishonest with your colleagues, your family members, about the amount you’re drinking or using, you start telling people that you’re doing really well when in… Read More

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Resentment

Resentment: The Main Offender

Resentment: The Main Offender Resentment is the number one offender on the road to relapse in addiction recovery. When we really can hold on and really feel the pain that we’ve had, in some cases for a very long time, where maybe we feel we’ve been wrongly done or we’ve been hurt where perhaps we shouldn’t have been…it can really take grip and keep us wrapped up in addiction. Resentment serves to help us re-feel old pain and we kind of torture ourselves with it by re-feeling it and hitting the replay button many times. Doing so actually turns into self-resentment, loathing and self-pity, we can take ourselves out of… Read More

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What Narcissists Secretly Fear

What Narcissists Secretly Fear

What Narcissists Secretly Fear A thumbnail sketch of ‘Narcissistic Personality Disorder’ is a disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. Behind a mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism. While narcissists might think of themselves as all-powerful and invincible, there are a lot of things which scare them. Relationship Commitment:  Probably one of the things which narcissists fear the most is committing to a relationship. Narcissists never let their guard down and being in a real relationship means you can’t put up walls and hide your true… Read More

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Understanding & Talking To Someone About Getting Help

Understanding & Talking To Someone About Getting Help

Understanding & Talking To Someone About Getting Help No one wants to be addicted, it comes from a root cause, there’s a root problem here. You really have to get to that root problem or it’s just gonna keep coming back. Say I hurt my back at work and go to the doctor, instantly I get four prescriptions, so that’s kind of where the addiction starts. I take lots of them, three times a day and at first it’s great. So eventually after three months, I need them, it wasn’t “Oh,it makes me feel better. ” I’m running from being sick at that point. I keep telling myself it’s okay… Read More

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Family Roles That Support Addiction

Family Roles That Support Addiction

Family Roles That Support Addiction Nothing exists in a vacuum, in order for addiction to grow and thrive within a family system it takes a village.  Everyone plays a part whether they know it or not. Here are some of the roles people may unwittingly play in enabling an addict to thrive and the feelings they serve to suppress The Addict:  The person with the addiction is the center, and though the key to alcohol and drug addiction recovery, not necessarily the most important in family recovery. The “world” revolves around this person, causing the addict to become the center of attention.  As the roles are defined, the others unconsciously… Read More

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Family Involvement

Family Involvement At Oceanside we provide individualized evidence based recovery programs designed to address a client’s current life circumstances and specific underlying problems and issues. While the first and most critical step is to remain abstinent from drugs and alcohol we also know that there are many reasons why people become addicts and alcoholics. Our team of treatment professionals work to properly access each client so they can begin the healing process and gain the tools they need in order to replace their old destructive methods of dulling their pain. In addition to having a strong 12 step program, we focus more intensely than other treatment programs in working with… Read More

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